My SO and I are now empty nesters. After over thirty years we no longer have a child in the house although I guess our youngest hasn't been a child for a while now. He's likely to boomerang back at the end of the year as that is when his studies finish but for now we have gone back to our early days of just being a couple. It is curious, weird, and the quiet is very loud. A friend told me she felt very down when her baby left home. And I appreciated that cos she's not down anymore. But also I felt the permission her admission gave me to feel whatever I was feeling whether sad or happy or something else. Whatever happens, it is a new phase. And some of the freedoms are kinda fun.
I had my first school visit for 2025 this week. I love how the first visit of every year feels like the first visit I've ever done. The nerve of my nerves is outrageous - how dare they act like I've never done this before. So rude. Although there is some value in feeling nervous - it makes sure I am well prepared. And I can report back that it went well, and I even learnt something new. A few years back I came up with a good (kind and polite) strategy to sideline statements during question time. But this week a student made a statement during question time that responded to a question from another student and to one of my stories. It was pertinent and on point and added to the conversation. Afterwards at morning tea a teacher told me that students with ADD will sometimes make statements to show they've been listening to what you've been saying and to connect with you. It is their version of a question I guess. It felt like a game changer to be told that. I don't want to sideline statements anymore. I guess I will need a new strategy to nip anything in the bud which threatens to swallow up the whole question time for everyone but I can see now how statements deserve their moment. You're never too old eh? I have a few more school visits booked in for June and will see how this new thinking on statements pans out and I will let you know what I discover. Fingers crossed I develop the perfect new strategy ...